Dream Wedding

Marriage
Some pray to marry the man they love, my prayer will somewhat vary: I humbly pray to Heaven above that I love the man I marry.

--Rose Stokes

A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendships, all the enjoyment of sense and reason - and indeed all the sweets of life.

--Joseph Addison (The Spectator Magazine)

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen each other in all labour, to minister to each other in all sorrow, to share with each other in all gladness, to be one with each other in the silent unspoken memories? --

George Eliot

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.

--Robert Browning

If love is a dream, then marriage is the alarm clock.

--John Hagee

Love is like a game of chess: One false move and you're mated.

--Unknown

Marriage must incessantly contend with a monster that devours everything: familiarity. --Honoré de Balzac

Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate t

o get in, and those inside equally desperate to get out.

--Michel de Montaigne

Marriage is like the army. Everybody complains, but you'd be surprised at how many re-enlist. --Anonymous

I would like to have engraved inside every wedding band, "Be kind to one another." This is the Golden Rule of marriage and the secret of making love last through the years.

--Randolph Roy

Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality.

--Abraham Lincoln

Opposites attract, but after marriage, opposites attack. Most of the time, we are attracted to people who don't have the things that we have. Incompatibility is why we get married, but it's also used as a reason to divorce. Incompatibility is just a lack of communication. If we just try to love [our spouse] the way we want to be loved, we are in trouble. Unless you communicate, it's difficult to know how to love another person.

--Dr. Charles Lowery.

Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

--author unknown

God made many puzzle pieces, but only those two 'cut out' for each other, can fit together to create a perfect and beautiful picture.

--Jessica Cochran

A good wife is more precious than jewels.

-- Proverbs 31: 10-12, 25-31

When I was a young man, I vowed never to marry until I found the ideal woman. Well, I found her. But, alas, she was waiting for the ideal man.

--Robert Schuman

Anyone who marries for money earns every cent of it.

--Anonymous

Indeed, if one can say that one has built genuinely loving relationships with a spouse and children, then one has already succeeded in accomplishing more than most people accomplish in a lifetime.

--The Road Less Traveled

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. --Mignon McLaughlin

Wedding Vows

It is a great joy to be gathered here in the beauty of nature where we can feel the glory of God's presence to consecrate and celebrate the joining of ________________&_______________ in Holy Matrimony. It is your great love for each other that has brought you to this sacred moment to embrace each other in your entirety as beloved companion and friend. This sacred vow is entered into with much consideration, love, respect and joy.
Marriage is like a beautiful garden, it requires tender care. It grows and expands with the expression of your caring actions. May the Great God of Love grant you, _______________&_____________ the patience to listen, the wisdom to understand, the capacity to support each other and the joy to laugh and to celebrate. May your communication be loving and honest. May your commitment to seeing and nurturing the highest in each other be unwavering. Marriage is an ideal opportunity to deepen our ability to share and to care, to give and receive love and then to extend that loving care to one and all. May you bask in the joy of giving. May the brightness of your love dissolve all darkness and may your love strengthen each other.
Through combining your life force energy and merging your life streams, the synergy of your union will enable you to contribute more as a team than one could individually. You become like two wings of the same bird or two oars of the same boat with a common goal- to know love and serve God and His creation. Wonderful things will come from this union. The Love that brought you together ______________ &_____________ will grow, expand and be exalted in your life together.
From 1st CorinthiansLove is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. Love never fails. Of all things love is the greatest.
_____________&________________ please face each other and join hands.
(Groom) ______________, Do you choose ________________ to be your lawfully wedded wife to love, cherish, honor and be faithful to her throughout your life together?
Groom: I Do!
(Bride)_________________, Do you choose _______________ to be your lawfully wedded husband to love, cherish, honor, and be faithful to him throughout your life together?
Bride: I Do!
(Groom)_________________, please repeat after me: _________________ I choose you to be my lawfully wedded wife -- In sorrow and in joy -- In need and in prosperity -- In sickness and in health -- To love and to comfort you -- Throughout our lives together.
(Bride)________________, please repeat after me: _________________ I choose you to be my lawfully wedded husband -- In sorrow and in joy -- In need and in prosperity -- In sickness and in health -- To love and to comfort you -- Throughout our lives together.
RingsThese rings are circles which represent wholeness, oneness, and unity. They symbolize eternity and everlasting love...
(Groom)__________________, please repeat after me: ______________ with this ring I offer you all that I am and all that I have. May this ring symbolize our everlasting love and be a constant and loving reminder of our sacred vows.
(Bride)___________________, please repeat after me: ______________ with this ring I offer you all that I am and all that I have. May this ring symbolize our everlasting love and be a constant and loving reminder of our sacred vows.
Blessing, Pronouncement, and the KissPrayer of Saint Francis of Assisi (optional)
God of great love, we ask that you kindly shower your Grace upon _______________ & _______________ . Grant them peace of mind and constant unbounded love. Give them the power, patience, and courage to express and expand their love to each other and to all. Nurture and strengthen them in times of difficulty. When differences arise, enable them to find in those very differences a deeper understanding and a greater love. Empower them in transforming problems to creative opportunities.
May they be blessed with the ancient Hawaiian virtue of Pono, absolute righteousness, openness and honesty. May this be the foundation of their union.
Bless them to have fun and to enjoy fully the blessing of life and the glory of marriage. Guide and protect them. May they joyfully fulfill the sacred vows which they have made today and express Your steadfast love.
________________&_______________ , you have declared your sacred vows before God. In this (name of church) , I call upon all Divine Blessings and Grace to Pronounce you Husband and Wife. May you go forth to share your love with each other and with one and all.
And may you seal this great Vow with a Kiss!!!

Philippine Wedding Culture and Superstitions

Filipinos still adhere to numerous widely-held folk beliefs that have no scientific or logical basis but maybe backed-up by some past experiences (yet can be dismissed as mere coincidence). Below are just a few that concerns weddings. Some are still practiced to this day primarily because of 'there's nothing to lose if we comply' attitude while the others are totally ignored for it seemed downright ridiculous. Read on...
Brides shouldn't try on her wedding dress before the wedding day or the wedding will not push through.

Knives and other sharp and pointed objects are said to be a bad choice for wedding gifts for this will lead to a broken marriage.

Giving arinola (chamberpot) as wedding gift is believed to bring good luck to newlyweds.

Altar-bound couples are accident-prone and therefore must avoid long drives or traveling before their wedding day for safety.

The groom who sits ahead of his bride during the wedding ceremony will be a henpecked husband.

If it rains during the wedding, it means prosperity and happiness for the newlyweds.

- A flame extinguished on one of the wedding candles means the one on which side has the unlit candle, will die ahead of the other.

Throwing rice confetti at the newlyweds will bring them prosperity all their life.

The groom must arrive before the bride at the church to avoid bad luck.

It is considered bad luck for two siblings to marry on the same year.

Breaking something during the reception brings good luck to the newlyweds.

The bride should step on the groom's foot while walking towards the altar if she wants him to agree to her every whim.

A bride who wears pearls on her wedding will be an unhappy wife experiencing many heartaches and tears.

An unmarried woman who follows the footsteps (literally) of the newlyweds will marry soon.

Dropping the wedding ring, the veil or the arrhae during the ceremony spells unhappiness for the couple.

In early Filipino custom, the groom-to-be threw his spear at the front steps of his intended's home, a sign that she has been spoken for. These days, a ring suffices as the symbol of engagement.

The Engagement

After the couple has decided to marry, the first order of business is the pamanhikan, where the groom and his parents visit the bride's family to ask for her hand in marriage. Wedding plans are often made at this time, including a discussion of the budget and guest list. Don't be surprised if the groom-to-be is expected to run some errands or help out around the bride's house. This tradition is called paninilbihan, where the suitor renders service to his future wife's family to gain their approval.

The Wedding Outfits

The white wedding dress has become popular in the last hundred years or so with America's influence in the Philippines. Before that, brides wore their best dress, in a festive color or even stylish black, to celebrate a wedding. Orange blossom bouquets and adornments were a must during the turn of the last century. For men, the barong tagalog is the traditional Filipino formal wear. It is a cool, almost transparent, embroidered shirt, made from silky pina or jusi, two native ecru fabrics. It is worn untucked, over black pants, with a white t-shirt underneath. These days, a Filipino American groom might wear the conventional black tux, but Filipino male wedding guests will usually show up in their finest barongs.

The Ceremony

In pre-colonial days, a wedding ceremony lasted three days. On the first day, the bride and groom were brought to the house of a priest or babaylan, who joined their hands over a plate of raw rice and blessed the couple. On the third day, the priest pricked the chests of both bride and groom and drew a little blood. Joining their hands, they declared their love for each other three times. The priest then fed them cooked rice from the same plate and gave them a drink of some of their blood mixed with water. Binding their hands and necks with a cord, he declared them married. The majority of Filipino weddings are now Catholic weddings, but some native traditions remain. Most have special "sponsors" who act as witnesses to the marriage. The principal sponsors could be godparents, counselors, a favorite uncle and aunt, even a parent. Secondary sponsors handle special parts of the ceremony, such as the candle, cord and veil ceremonies. Candle sponsors light two candles, which the bride and groom use to light a single candle to symbolize the joining of the two families and to invoke the light of Christ in their married life. Veil sponsors place a white veil over the bride's head and the groom's shoulders, a symbol of two people clothed as one. Cord sponsors drape the yugal (a decorative silk cord) in a figure-eight shape--to symbolize everlasting fidelity--over the shoulders of the bride and groom. The groom gives the bride 13 coins, or arrhae, blessed by the priest, as a sign of his dedication to his wife's well-being and the welfare of their future children.

The Food

The Filipino wedding feast is elaborate. One feast celebrated at the turn of the last century involved these foods: First was served cold vermicelli soup. The soup was followed by meats of unlimited quantity--stewed goat, chicken minced with garlic, boiled ham, stuffed capon, roast pork and several kinds of fish. There were no salads, but plenty of relishes, including red peppers, olives, green mango pickles and crystallized fruits. For dessert, there were meringues, baked custard flan, coconut macaroons and sweetened seeds of the nipa plant.

The Groom and the Bride

The Different Kind Of Corsage and the Groom Attire

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The Promise of LOVE

Writing Your Own Vows

Think it's too hard to write your own wedding vows? Although you may struggle to put into words how you feel about one another, there is something deeply satisfying about writing your own vows.

The word "vows" means to promise solemnly and take an oath. This is one of the deepest promises you make to another person. In my mind this is very important and worth at least the same amount of time you devote to picking out wedding china!

Simpler words come easier to some couples than saying a bunch of thees and thous.

Take an evening with your love (hopefully sooner than the rehearsal night) and both take a sheet of paper. Give yourselves some starting sentences for each other to complete. Such as:

I will love you until:

I promise to:

The best thing between us is:

Will you

I love you because

Perhaps this will give you a good start on writing your own vows!

Humerous Vows

Often injecting humor into wedding vows (especially when unexpected!) can delight the family and friend who come to witness the wedding.

A chuckle swept over the crowd at a wedding I attended. The minister, while the groom obediently repeated the vows to his adoring bride, paused a moment when the minister instructed,

"I, Dallas, take thee, Megan to be my wedded wife. For richer, for poorer, for sickness and in health, for low insurance rates and high insurance rates, so long as we both shall live."

The whole crowd burst into laughter (as well as the bride and groom) realizing that the long-suffering father of the bride was making it clear that he was turning over all responsibility of his accident-prone daughter to her new husband!

You realize even more the significance of this when I tell you that the bride inadvertently caused a mishap during the honeymoon that ended up with the groom in a cast for the remainder of their stay in Hawaii!

Choose things that can be shared humor . . . but never tasteless. You want your wedding day remembered in a loving and lighthearted way . . . not one to leave people shaking their heads as they leave.

Traditional Wedding Vows

Traditional pledges are usually simply stated (whether in old English or modern day terms.

A simple example would be, “I, John, promise to love and cherish you, Jane, for as long as we both shall live."

This may or many not contains references to God or Christianity as preferred by the bride and groom. Be sure to make clear to the minister or officiate your preference.

Wedding Vow Renewal

Many couples like to celebrate landmarks in their life, such as a wedding anniversary, to renew their wedding vows.

Although they are not generally as large an affair as a first time wedding, these ceremonies can be very touching and a wonderful way to reaffirm your love for your partner.

Perhaps you can rewrite your original vows to include some of the deepest trials and greatest moments of happiness in your lives. This could be things such as supporting each other through an illness, the birth of your children or other momentous occasions.

Traditional Christian Wedding Vow

Christian wedding vows usually contain prayers and bible references. Traditional bible verses may include:

Old Testament:

Genesis 2:20-25 Isaiah 61:10-62,3 Proverbs 3:1-6 Psalms 100 Song of Solomon - Chapter 2:10-13 Song of Solomon 7:10-12

New Testament:

John 15:9-17 Mark 10:6-9 1 Corinthians 13 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 1 John 4:7-12 Colossians 3:12-19 Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Free Sample Wedding Vows

Pastors, ministers and other wedding officiants can give you guidance when needing samples of wedding vows.

There is always an abundance of sample vows on the internet. You can find thousands of free wedding vows at The Wedding Link Library . By taking a simple survey, you will have access to lots of vows while getting free coupons and name brand offers.

I strongly suggest you open a NEW e-mail account just for wedding offers. This keeps out the potential of a lot of spam in your regular e-mail account!

You may also glean some suggestions from these printed vows and personalize some of them into something of your own.

Wedding Vows and Wedding Poems

Are you both romantics at heart? Write each other your own wedding vows in the form of a poem. Remember . . . that all poems do not need to rhyme.

Write in short sentences and stop often to read it aloud to yourself to see how the ebb and flow of the writing goes.

Need some inspiration? Go read some of the more famous love poems by respected writers like Robert Browning, John Keets, Lord Byron, Robert Whitman and more at http://www.classic-romantic-love-poems.com/

Many are short and would fit easily into a lovely wedding ceremony.

Wedding Accesories

Wedding Candle

Wedding Garter

Wedding Glasses

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Wedding Rice

wedding bells

wedding Candles

Wedding Favors

Wedding Ring

Guest to your Wedding Should be...

Cut Your Wedding Guest List

The first step is to go through your guest list and put an "A" or a "B" next to each name, with the A's being the absolute "must invites" and the B list is everyone else.
The next step -- Cut the "B list". Start by asking yourself these three questions:

Have I seen this person in the last 12 months?
Have I spoken with this person in the last 6 months?
Did I send this person a Christmas card last year?

If you answered "no" to all of the questions above, then you could probably cut this person from your guest list without loosing too much sleep.

If your list is still too long, then you should try going through the following:
Don't invite your parent's friends, particularly if you don't know them very well. However, there is one exception to this rule. If your parents are paying for all or a majority of the wedding expenses, they may be entitled to "more" input regarding the guest list and other areas of the wedding planning.

Don't invite old high school or college friends that you know you'll never see again.
Don't invite second and third cousins.
Don't invite business associates, unless of course, it's your boss, or someone who you work with closely on a regular basis.
Don't invite children.
Don't allow single people - those without "significant others" - to bring a date.
Don't invite people just because you were invited to their wedding.

ou may feel badly about cutting people from your guest list - but remember - this is the fastest way to save money on your wedding expenses!

Your V.I.P. on your Wedding

Your Wedding VIP's

Your wedding day is about you and your partner. But there are always other Very Important People who you would love to be involved in your wedding, but not everyone can be a best man, or bridesmaid. There are of course other ways to include these people in your wedding, and make them feel important to you as well. So, here are a list of important roles and functions which need to be filled, by just the right people. No, there are a few here which not everyone will use, but then again you just never know...

Wedding Roles

Your SecretaryThere is always so much which needs to be done. Appointments to be made, paperwork's to be filled in, finale dates and times and bookings and and and.....Whew, wouldn't it be easier if you had someone who could help you with all this, someone who could make your appointments, ensure that all the paperwork is done, invitations are sent out on time etc.

Site Stylists

If you are working on a tight budget for your wedding, then there is a good chance that you may be doing the site decorations yourself. Now with a few days to go before your wedding, you will have more important things which you need to do, and so, having someone to help you with the reception and venue decorations, and table settings is just the ticket.

Program Distributors & Ushers

Almost every venue will need someone to hand out the wedding programs, and help anyone who gets a little lost or confused. This gives someone a role which will leave them feeling like they have directly effected the success of your wedding, and still leave them free to have a good time. By the way, the usher role is not strictly for guys only.

Candle Lighters

There are some Christian ceremonies, where 9-12 year olds will be responsible to light the candles just before the mother of the bride is seated. A good job to keep the youngsters in the family out of trouble, and involved in the wedding.

Ring Bearer

This role is often set aside for an adorable young boy or girl in the family, usually anywhere from 4 years to 8 years of age. It is also a good idea to choose a child who is not too fidgety, if you have that choice.

Pages & Train Bearers

If your train is long, you may want to involve a few 6 - 9 year old girls or boys to help keep your train in top shape, and not under your feet.

Reader

This is a popular way to give someone a space in the spot light and to feel an important part of the wedding. Religious passages are quite common, but do remember that you may want to choose someone who shares the same beliefs as you to do the readings.

Soloist

This is another popular one. Most of us have some friends who have musical talent, and a good way to keep your guests entertained, and to give this VIP a share of the spot light, is to have them sing a song while you go off and sign the legal certificate.

Rice Princess or Prince

After the ceremony you are going to need to have someone hand out the rice or confetti to your guests as they leave the chapel, and it is another way to incorporate some close friends or relatives into your ceremony.

Choosing the Right Bridesmaids

Your Bridesmaids Charactoristics

When looking for the perfect bridesmaid, look for the following:
Reliability - You will want a person who is going to be reliable, to show up for fittings when they are scheduled, be on time for the rehearsal and the ceremony etc.
Accommodating - She should be able to wear a dress that may not be their “ideal choice” without complaining. After all the day is about YOU and not HER!
Helpful - Preferably someone who is going to be willing to help out with any wedding details, errands, shopping etc.

So, when you are choosing the members of your wedding party, choose friends or family members that you are close to now, and not when you were 8 years old.
The last thing you will want to do is ask someone to be your bridesmaid, just because you were her bridesmaid.

If you budget is tight, then you will definitely want to limit the number of bridesmaids you have to as few as possible. This will simply reduce your bills for:
Flowers
Dresses, shoes and accessories
Attendants gifts

Reduce the bridesmaids luncheon costs & rehearsal dinners, etc.
It will also be a good idea to look at what your budget is for bridesmaids dresses, shoes, accessories etc. before asking people to be your bridesmaid.
If you do have a bridesmaid who lives out of town, then remember to take care of some sort of accommodation for her, and perhaps to add this into your budget as well.

The Do's And Dont's Before WEdding

Wedding Planning Do's & Don'ts
Here is a good summary of what you should and shouldn't be doing when you are planning your wedding.
Remember, that as long as your planning for your wedding is done well in advance, you control your budget, and everyone who is involved in your wedding knows what is required, then your special day will be perfect.

Wedding Planning Must Do's

PlanPlan your wedding thoroughly, down to all the last little details. The best way to do this is to follow a wedding plan. Give your self a "time line" in which you need to get bookings made, or fittings done by.
BudgetYou don't always have to spend a lot of money to have a beautiful wedding. Sometimes, less is more, if done correctly.It can be very easy to overspend without even knowing that you are overspending. The best way to do this is to have a wedding budget for everything, from the wedding dress to the flowers.
CoordinateIt is very important to use your wedding planning guide to coordinate everything that you do. This will insure that everything that needs to be done, is done, and when it needs to be done by.

Wedding Planning Don'ts

Don't RushDon't rush into making any fast decisions. Take your time and make sure that the decisions you make are good ones, especially when it comes to choosing professionals, such as photographers or caterers.

Cheap isn't always goodHiring cheap professionals may not always be the right decision. Some things are worth paying that little bit extra for. Remember, a good picture can bring back amazing thoughts and memories, and a bad one will bring back nothing.

AssumptionWell we all know what they say about assumption. Always get everything in writing. This will only make things easier for you if anything should go awry.

The GuestsYou don't have to invite every single person you have ever known to your wedding. Remember that this is your special day! Spend it with those people who mean the most to you and your spouse, and will make your wedding special for the two of you.

Wedding Responsibility

Traditional Wedding Responsibility

Bride & Grooms Pay For

Decide budget and wedding plans.
Choose wedding party attendants. Choose clothing for best man, groomsmen and brides attendants.
Buy gifts for their attendants.
Brides Wedding Responsibility
Discusses budget with fiance and parents.
Sets date, time and place of wedding and reception.
Selects wedding dress and accessories.
Books caterer, wedding and reception entertainment, florist, photographer, videographer and bakery.
Helps compile the guest list
Orders invitations, thank-you notes and personal stationery.
Buys grooms wedding band.

Groom

Helps compile the guest list.
Buys the wedding ring.
Gets the marriage license and any other legal documents.
Pays for and arranges honeymoon.
Pays for brides' bouquet, going-away corsage, corsages for both mothers and close female relatives on either side.
Supplies boutonnieres for himself and male attendants.

Matron of Honor

Assists the bride any way she can
Pays for her own gown and accessories
Supervises bridesmaids.
Helps bride get ready before the ceremony and before departure from the reception.
Holds the grooms ring during the ceremony
Arranges the brides veil and train and holds the bouquet during the ceremony
Signs the marriage certificate as a witness.
May assume responsibility to transport the brides gown and gifts home.

Best Man

Signs the marriage license as a witness.
Assists the groom in any way he can.
Oversees the ushers.
Holds brides wedding ring during the ceremony.
Makes sure ceremony official is paid.
Helps newlyweds prepare for honeymoon departure.
Makes sure that all men's rental clothes are returned after the wedding.

Mother of the Bride

Usually acts as hostess of the reception
Helps the bride compile the guest list, arrange details of ceremony and reception
Keeps the brides father and grooms parents informed about wedding plans.
Is afforded special honor at the wedding service and is seated last.
Sits in place of honor at parents' table.

Father of the Bride

Rides to the ceremony with the bride.
Escorts the bride down the aisle, then joins his wife in the front row.
Keeps an eye on the bar and champagne supply.
Makes a short toast at the reception

Before Weddding Done

Enjoy it!

Enjoy the glow and excitement of it all while you can. You will probably really feel the buzz and excitement of your engagement for about 48 hours before you really start getting your feet back firmly on the ground. Just enjoy the secret you have for a few days.
You may also want to take this time to spend together, because of the next few months or years - depending on how you plan your wedding- you are both going to be quite busy with some very important decisions.

Tell Your Parents

First on your list of people to tell and share you fab news with should be your parents. In most cases it is usually a good idea to tell parents separately. This is usually good as it will allow each family to share their feelings freely, nor will they have to deal with any uncomfortable hugs from future in-laws.
As tradition would have it, it is usually the brides family which gets to hear the news first. And if possible, the best way to do it is to invite them around for dinner, when you will let them in on the news.

Visualize Your Wedding

Before you start planning your wedding, you need to "see" your wedding. See exactly how you want your wedding to be, is it going to be formal or casual? Is their a particular wedding theme you want for your wedding? It really is up to you, and your wedding budget.

Decide on a Budget

This is possible the single biggest factor in your wedding. Your budget is going to control just about everything in your wedding plans.
There are many things which are going to effect the end cost of your wedding. Obviously and city wedding is going to cost more than an out of town wedding, time of the year may also have an effect on your cost. Formal is always going to be more expensive than casual etc.
Setting your budget is important, and it is important that you set a budget within your goals, and not with in your dreams.

Choose Your Attendants

So you have had a few friends that have always been there for you, no matter what. Well now is the time you acknowledge their loyalty when you choose your bridesmaids and groomsmen. One thing is for sure, it is a big honor for someone to best asked, and it is an even bigger honor when they accept.

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Planning Your Wedding Budget

1. The Wedding DateIt will save you to schedule your wedding during the “off-season.” Almost 70% of all weddings take place between May and October. Unfortunately, as with most things, the laws of supply and demand apply.
The more brides competing with you for locations, limousines, and florists, the more the price goes up. It is also a good idea to avoid late November through New Year’s period, when hotels, caterers and bands are likely to be busy with holiday parties.
The best time for you will probably be in January, February or March.

2. Choose a Morning WeddingIn most weddings, your biggest cost will be for food and beverages at the reception. Try and plan a beautiful morning brunch, this will set you back less than dinner fare and reduce the amount of alcohol which is consumed.

3. Find a low Cost LocationDon’t knock your childhood church or synagogue: if you or your parents are members, the location fee will probably be waived. Also a city-owned location, such as a public garden or historic building, may be available for a surprisingly low fee. In addition, you will find that Sundays and Fridays are generally cheaper to hire for weddings.

4. The Wedding DressBridal gowns aren’t the only white dresses in the world, so going for something that isn't a wedding dress may be a more cost effective solution. Other options may be to hire a wedding dress, if you can find the right one that suits your style and body. Many Wedding Dress outlets will even tailor the dress to fit you.

5. The Right DecorationsSpend your money on the things people will see the most throughout the event. There are many simple effects which can create the right atmosphere without adding much cost on. Candles always create the right atmosphere and are cheaper than lights for each table. Would you decorate the back of each guests chair? Are they really going to see the decorations there, or will they see the flower arrangement on the tables more? Picking a location that needs little to help spruce it up may at the end of the day, save you money.

6. Flower SelectionTry and select flowers that are in season and available locally - this will save you vast amounts of money as opposed to having a particular flower shipped in for your wedding. Availability and price of flowers will vary from city to city, and region to region. If you are looking to cut costs, then avoid roses and orchids. Although they’re widely available, they are pricey.

7. Reception ThemesChoosing a theme for your reception can also be a great way to cut costs. You don’t have to be of Mexican descent to turn your reception into a fiesta, and a spectacular banquet of traditional Mexican food will probably cost less than prime rib and asparagus. You could continue your theme by limiting the bar to imported Mexican beers and margueritas. There are many exciting themes which will save you money, and allow you to explore a different and exciting theme.

8. Use Friends and relativesyou shouldn't be afraid to let your friends and family know that you’re looking for ways to keep your wedding budget under control. They may offer their own skills to help you save money, or how to help you find a great deal.

9.Cutting your guest listIt may be a very difficult thing to do, but there simply isn't a faster and easier way to control your budget than by limiting the size of the event. Remember that it is your wedding, and it should be spent with those friends and family who are close to you, not the ones you haven't seen in 10 years

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Who Pays for which wedding service has become more and more flexible.

What does the Grooms family pay for and what does the Brides family pay for? And who pays for the Reception and rehearsal dinner. If you are having a traditional wedding, and are wanting everything to be in order, then these are important questions you need to answer now.

Who Pays For Which Wedding Expenses ?

Bride

Personal stationery
Wedding ring for groom
Wedding gift for groom
Gifts for attendants
Physical examination

Groom

Bride's rings
Honeymoon
Formalwear and accessories
Wedding gift for bride
Bridal bouquet and going-away corsage
Boutonnieres for all men in wedding party
Mothers' corsages
Physical examination / blood test
Gifts for best man, ushers
Gloves, ties or ascots for men in wedding party
Marriage license
Lodging for out-of-town attendants
Fee for clergy or judge

Brides Family

Wedding gift for newlyweds
Entire reception
Rental of sanctuary or chapel
Bride's wedding attire and trousseau
Invitations, announcements & postage
Engagement and wedding photographs
Organist, soloist and sexton fees
Aisle carpets and/or canopy, and any additional decorating costs
Bridesmaids' bouquets
Flowers for reception
Transportation for bridal party to ceremony and reception
Security and insurance gifts
Wedding coordinator's fee
Wedding cake
Parking costs
Coat check fees
Gratuities for bartenders and waiters

Grooms Family

Traveling expenses and hotel bills
Wedding clothes
Rehearsal dinner
Wedding gift for the newlyweds
Shipment of wedding gifts to bridal couple's new home

Different Flower arrangement

BRIDE'S BOUQUETThe bridal bouquet is one of the most important elements of the bride's attire and deserves special attention. Start by selecting the color and shape of the bouquet. The bridal bouquet should be carried low enough so that all the intricate details of your gown are visible. Options: There are many colors, scents, sizes, shapes and styles of bouquets to choose from. Popular styles are the cascade, cluster, contemporary and hand-tied garden bouquets. The traditional bridal bouquet is made of white flowers. Stephanotis, gardenias, white roses, orchids and lilies of the valley are popular choices for an all-white bouquet.

1. To have and to Hold Bridal Flower

2. Bridal Flower green mutiff

3. The Bridesmaid Flower

4. Wedding Ceremony Flower Arrangement

5.Entrance Stand Flower

6. Flower Girl Basket

Centerpeice

Flower's means to me...

Amaryllis - splendid beauty
Anemone - anticipation
Apple Blossom - good fortune
Baby's Breath - pure of heart
Bachelor's Button - hope
Bluebell - constancy
Buttercup - riches
Camellia - good fortune or loveliness
Carnation - lasting fidelity & deep love
Crocus - joy
Daisy - faith, cheer & simplicity
Fern - Sincerity
Forget-me-not - true love
Freesia - innocence
Fuchsia - good taste
Gardenia - joy
Gladiola - generosity
Holly - foresight
Honeysuckle - generosity and devotion
Iris - faith, wisdom & health
Jasmine - grace & elegance
Jonquil - affection returned
Larkspur - levity
Lily - virtue, beauty, elegance & pride
Lily of the Valley - happiness
Marigold - sacred affection
Mimosa - sensitivity
Myrtle - remembrance
Olive & Laurel Leaves - plenty & virtue
Orange Blossoms - fertility & marriage
Orchid - you are beauty
Peony - bashfulness
Purple Lilac - first love
Red Rose - I love you
Red & White Roses (together) - unity
Rosemary - commitment & fidelity
Sage - Domestic Virtue
Stephanotis (often called The Wedding Flower) - happiness in marriage
Sweet Pea - blissful pleasure
Sweet William - gallantry
Tulip - perfect lover
Violet - faithfulness
Water Lily - purity of heart
White Carnation -remember me
White Daisy - innocence
White Lilac - innocence
White Lily - purity & young innocence
White Rose - I am worthy of you
Wood Sorrel - maternal tenderness
Yellow Tulip - hopeless love
Zinnia - remembrance & affection

The carrying of flowers by the bride at weddings has its roots in ancient times when it was believed that strong smelling herbs and spices would ward off and drive away evil spririts, bad luck and ill health.

During Victorian times, flowers took on an additional significance, as lovers would send messages to each other using different flowers, with each flower having its own meaning. These associations were soon adopted for the bride's bouquet and are still used today by many brides.

Cutting the Cake

Cutting the wedding cake together, still a predominant ritual at weddings, symbolizes the couple's unity, their shared future, and their life together as one.

In old England it was traditional to bake a ring into the wedding cake as a symbol of bliss and happiness. The guest whose piece of cake contained the ring, it was said, could look forward to a full year of uninterrupted happiness.

The Cake

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Cakes have played a part of weddings all through history. The Romans shared a plain cake of flour, salt and water during the wedding ceremony itself, as Native Americans still do today. The traditional fruit cake originated in Britain, with the fruit and nuts being a symbol of fertility.